ANGER-The Ultimate Poison

“Be wise. Before you react; think twice. If realized, Don’t Revise. Follow this and you will have happiest sunrise.”

Dissatisfaction is the biggest trouble that the world is facing today but I think, it’s just a way that the world has invented to demonstrate the inner temperament, Isn’t it?

Each of us lives with expectations and each one has self decided level of expectations. But the Life is the distance between the expectation and the reality. This distance is known as dissatisfaction. Each of us thinks that everything is achievable. Nothing is wrong in that, but, it’s dangerous when he thinks that everything is achievable by HIM. As far as achievement is concerned; life is not to achieve anything, by choice but sacrifice of the wish to achieve everything, by choice.

Let’s define the word Anger? What is it? Ask yourself. Anger is the outcome of your inner frustration isn’t it? It’s just a reaction when your ego hurts, isn’t it? It’s just your try to hide your weaknesses when you are helpless, isn’t it? It’s your inner howls when you come across the failure, isn’t it?

We humans are very funny creations of god. We expect the highest with the least patience level. We live with the desperation to know about the future we are unattached to. We all are like that student in the examination hall, who is habitués to worry and think about the result before the exam starts. We all are dependent, yes… dependent; on so many things: Luck, Destiny, Starts, Line That god has carved in our palms. We blindly chase our expectations to achieve them and one fine day, when suddenly, any unwanted turn strikes, we- the weakest suddenly loose our controls, patience and the most important one; the faith in ourselves.

We humans are best at comparison. We can easily compare anything with everything and vice versa. We often compare our achievement with others; and even our failures with others. We often compare the situations and problems that we face with other’s comforts. And when it comes to professional achievements, one always considers him/herself less-matured with compare to other colleagues and by doing such kind of childish comparisons; he/she eventually gives birth to the word anger.

One SHOULD follow the path he WANTS to follow, not the path he thinks he SHOULD follow, but most of us do exactly the opposite and by doing this, we invite Mr. confusion to enter in our life the way Mr. SUNNY DEOL did in the movie DAMINI; a sudden and a surprising one. Everything comes in this world with two sides and so has the mind. To select the best from the options is like “SAMUDRA MANTHAN”, it gives nectar but along with poison, same way, while selecting, we unwontedly receive poison in form of confusion, stress, dissatisfaction, and ego and unfortunately we are not LORD SHIVA at soul who can digest it.

We are gaining elasticity and loosing flexibility but my dear friend :-"Flexibility Is Very Good But Don’t Be an Elastic That Hurts Back Like Hell When Situation Releases It, Try To Be A Chewing Gum That Sticks To The Situation Even if It Destroys The Gum In Parts”. Temperament is good if based on genuine reasons and if you use it in valid direction. Satisfaction- dissatisfactions, expectations-disappointments, success-failure, choices-confusion, ego, weakness, inability; these situations are created by us but unfortunately we have no proper way to deal with. Try to be a rubber-a stretchable soul, avoid comparison, reduce your level of expectations and then everything is tolerable. Define your levels and be an adjustable soul.

So, what is the conclusion? Can Anger be avoided? Do we have any way that can help us to resist such tumor named Anger? No, my dear friend, anger can neither be avoided nor be stopped. Anger is our inner pain and pain cannot be expressed, removed or shared but, Yes! You can divert it from one reason to another. Go for meditation, listen to soft music, and try to be a child, write whatever is running in your mind in the diary. Listen and follow your god. Wait…. Wait… when I say “god”, I am not talking anything related to the person with four hands, who sits in the perfumed room and continuously observing you through a Hi- tech camera. No, this is a mythological definition of god. When I say listen to your god, I am talking about your inner strength, your inner maturity, something inside you which drives you to work, which drives you to emotions, which has kept your emotional soul alive, which ignites in your mind every morning in numerous forms; hope, goal, expectation, happiness, wish, dream etc.

That’s It.

Maulik-The One Man Army

A strange thing happened last night!!

The biggest disaster came across my family two days back, one of my cousin brothers passed away suddenly. It was something next to impossible for me and my family to digest. Needles of Numerous unanswered questions were hurting my brain and my heart beyond my capacity of tolerance. With heavy heart, I was still searching for the answers of those questions like; is it practically possible to accept that the person who was so connected to you will never appear in front of you when you will in a need of that person? He will no longer available when you will want to vomit out your frustration. He left the world with some deep agony and few unshared worries though for him I was a great listener? Is it acceptable for me and my family that the person, who was loaded with some serious responsibilities of a young helping wife and a two years old child, jolted his family’s stability due to some unfavorable conditions?

I was spellbound, I was lost, with tears in the eyes, I was trying to clean my room and…. A strange thing happened. Coincidently, I opened my drawer and I found few things I was solely connected with, in my childhood and my school days. I found an old Panasonic radio. I tried to tune the frequency and surprisingly it was working. I found a walkman with a cassette in it; I changed batteries and tried to listen to it. Against my expectations, it was working. I asked myself a question that: - “Maulik! There was a time when these things were your favorite things; these are the things you were desperate for, than suddenly what happened? How you managed to stay disconnected to such precious things”? With tons of confusion, I continued the work but something was forcing me to find the answer. I sat on the table and suddenly my eyes got fixed on the answer of my question-a thing; my advanced music player.

Suddenly I realized that I stopped using my radio as I got a cassette player on my birthday, in addition to that, again I stopped using the cassette player because I got an advanced USB player. I concluded: I started losing my attachments and addiction to something the moment I came across a better replacement with compare to what I was having. Though things were still working for me and so are they, though things were maintained enough to serve and so are they, the better and advanced option amongst all choices was and so is always a preferable move for me. Practically (as per my understandings), everything comes with an expiry. Anything, rigid or a living being has to die once it reaches to the expiry, no matter how useful or needy we are for that particular person or thing, no matter how important or useless that thing or living being is for us, it has to die once it reaches to the expiry and nature never neglects, It just can’t do that. It always has a replacement for anything and everything. Yes, it takes time for us to adjust to that advancement and replacement but time comes with rays of guidance.

Now, as I just used the word “adjust”, let me set my halogens of clarification on the meaning or definition of word “ADJUST”. Why did I say that we require some time to adjust to the replacement though it’s more advanced and more comfortable in terms of service? Because, when we come across anything for the first time, it always troubles us. Trust me my dear friend, FRIST- is a great teacher. Whenever you face anything for the first time, it never appears in the way we want, it never serves in the form we wish and it never entertains in the mode we are familiar with. Rewind your life and recall: - your first day at school, first touch of your mother, first slap that you faced, first failure, first achievement, first love, first hate, first friend etc and now unfold all the experiences that you have secured during such phases? I am sure, in all such situations, you have had countless problems, disturbance, confusions to face. May be, you have had a phase when you suffered from helplessness. But by facing and accepting these phases and situation, You might have learnt to live with such situations, you, for sure have gained nothing but experience, maturity and power to stabilize your disturbed soul.

Get Attached is an ultimate right for any sentient being but any attachment can’t be categorized as eternal bliss, it’s always an internal wealth. As stated in mythology:-“Any living being is originated from clay”, then according to me: god is a potter, we all are clay-mud and this life is a spinning wheel. Until we reach to our adulthood, god tries to give us a shape by creating different situations and jerks and once we wear a shape called maturity, he puts us into the steam chambers of failures, destructions, death, needs, dissatisfactions, loneliness etc. and if we fail to survive, he may throw us back to mud of repentance and frustration but if we survive, he will grant us nothing great but peace which is next to heaven.

Whenever we accidently meet any unaffordable situation, we start losing strength, we start complaining, we start showing our reactions; we start considering god-a culprit, we start adopting that he has done this and he always does this to family and closed ones. A happily living person throws himself in the valley of pain, valley of sympathy, valley of dependencies, valley of negatives, and valley of helplessness. And ultimately, we lose our identity, we lose our strength, we lose our ability and situation handling power, we lose our faith in ourselves, we lose our patience that we gained after a long life-full of struggles. At the end, we start hiding ourselves behind the curtains of frustrations, quietness, depression, complains, poverty of luck etc. madding recklessness.

As I said, everything comes with an expiry and so is the repentance and agony. If we fail to achieve something, we suffer and its normal reaction, but this suffering phase also comes with and expiry but in response to this, what all we need to do is to show and support our patience, our tolerance and our faith in our inner selves. And in addition, we can’t deny a fact that these patience, tolerance and faith also come with their respective expiries. So start living before you leave. Always remember: - Life is very short to be lived and to live it longer, Be-lieve(believe) in yourself before you start believing god, identify your weaknesses before your strengths, learn to digest your failures before you cherish success, learn to live with pain before you start living happily, learn to understand the meaning of isolation before you join chaos, learn to accept responsibilities before you act immature and last but not the least, accept and adopt your death before you start living your life.

Maulik-The One Man Army