MATURITY!!

Life is not a road to destination; it’s only a pointer which shows you the directions. When I use “directions” I mean it. You will face several cross roads in the journey of your life. We always focus on distance rather than destination. In every single moment of our life we expect a pointer, who can guide us, who can show us directions or better say our hierarchy makes us to follow the way I have described. Hierarchy is nothing but a stream of rigid thinking of our father, grandfather, our elders, old values of society, so called basic “rules”, cultural dissimilarities.

In my journey of 22 years, several time I have heard the word “maturity “, in my childhood several time they compared me with someone’s adulthood. And tagged me as Immature, irresponsible. But as far as maturity is concern, I don’t think so there any link between Age and maturity. Is there any?

What is MATURITY? Common and simple answer of this question is:-“maturity is a basic knowledge of life, how to handle it, what to do, what not to do, how to react, how to speak, how to handle situation”. This is a formatted answer many of us know. But this is rigid answer. A baby is as matured as his father. What he needs is time. Who explained a baby, how to breath? No one, right? Still he can breathe properly, he can move, he can smile, he can cry. He knows if I will cry my mother will feed me. If I will laugh my father will kiss me. What is this? This is MATURITY. When a person knows what he should do to achieve, to get his basic needs, his basic dreams, his basic goals, he is the most matured person in his own world.

Maturity is a reaction of some natural or artificial actions. I have seen several times, parents force their child to go for the course they want him to learn. “After 10th you will go for science stream, that’s final, there is no value of commerce, you don’t know anything, and you are IMMATURED”. Many times we heard this kind of sentences. One should have right to do what he/she actually wants to do. Why they don’t have rights? No one is immature on this earth, amount of maturity differs. If one girl wants to marry with a person whom she loves, hierarchy will not allow her to do that. And they will bit her feelings with the stick of immaturity, irresponsibleness. Is it valid to force someone to follow your own ethics? Are they matured in the way they behave? This is nothing but internal ego. One man-one rule mentality. Why we have to follow protocol, why don’t we have our own way of thinking and rules to follow. When someone tries to break this structure and follow his own rules, he will surely be tagged as immature. But we are helpless and this rule is World Wide Web. Our egoistic hierarchy will not allow us to break the chain.

I don’t know why our society is having a rigid lifestyle, why we are following each other’s way, we have created an unbreakable loop and now when we know we can’t break it we are complaining. We should have our own free world and our own levels of maturity. And we should have freedom to follow our basic ethics. Don’t try to define Maturity try to differentiate the levels of it. Remember one thing:-“Tiger is a symbol of power, But, Man Eater Tiger is a symbol of violence” and we need to kill the tiger to survive.

That’s it.