The biggest disaster came across my family two days back, one of my cousin brothers passed away suddenly. It was something next to impossible for me and my family to digest. Needles of Numerous unanswered questions were hurting my brain and my heart beyond my capacity of tolerance. With heavy heart, I was still searching for the answers of those questions like; is it practically possible to accept that the person who was so connected to you will never appear in front of you when you will in a need of that person? He will no longer available when you will want to vomit out your frustration. He left the world with some deep agony and few unshared worries though for him I was a great listener? Is it acceptable for me and my family that the person, who was loaded with some serious responsibilities of a young helping wife and a two years old child, jolted his family’s stability due to some unfavorable conditions?
I was spellbound, I was lost, with tears in the eyes, I was trying to clean my room and…. A strange thing happened. Coincidently, I opened my drawer and I found few things I was solely connected with, in my childhood and my school days. I found an old Panasonic radio. I tried to tune the frequency and surprisingly it was working. I found a walkman with a cassette in it; I changed batteries and tried to listen to it. Against my expectations, it was working. I asked myself a question that: - “Maulik! There was a time when these things were your favorite things; these are the things you were desperate for, than suddenly what happened? How you managed to stay disconnected to such precious things”? With tons of confusion, I continued the work but something was forcing me to find the answer. I sat on the table and suddenly my eyes got fixed on the answer of my question-a thing; my advanced music player.
Suddenly I realized that I stopped using my radio as I got a cassette player on my birthday, in addition to that, again I stopped using the cassette player because I got an advanced USB player. I concluded: I started losing my attachments and addiction to something the moment I came across a better replacement with compare to what I was having. Though things were still working for me and so are they, though things were maintained enough to serve and so are they, the better and advanced option amongst all choices was and so is always a preferable move for me. Practically (as per my understandings), everything comes with an expiry. Anything, rigid or a living being has to die once it reaches to the expiry, no matter how useful or needy we are for that particular person or thing, no matter how important or useless that thing or living being is for us, it has to die once it reaches to the expiry and nature never neglects, It just can’t do that. It always has a replacement for anything and everything. Yes, it takes time for us to adjust to that advancement and replacement but time comes with rays of guidance.
Now, as I just used the word “adjust”, let me set my halogens of clarification on the meaning or definition of word “ADJUST”. Why did I say that we require some time to adjust to the replacement though it’s more advanced and more comfortable in terms of service? Because, when we come across anything for the first time, it always troubles us. Trust me my dear friend, FRIST- is a great teacher. Whenever you face anything for the first time, it never appears in the way we want, it never serves in the form we wish and it never entertains in the mode we are familiar with. Rewind your life and recall: - your first day at school, first touch of your mother, first slap that you faced, first failure, first achievement, first love, first hate, first friend etc and now unfold all the experiences that you have secured during such phases? I am sure, in all such situations, you have had countless problems, disturbance, confusions to face. May be, you have had a phase when you suffered from helplessness. But by facing and accepting these phases and situation, You might have learnt to live with such situations, you, for sure have gained nothing but experience, maturity and power to stabilize your disturbed soul.
Get Attached is an ultimate right for any sentient being but any attachment can’t be categorized as eternal bliss, it’s always an internal wealth. As stated in mythology:-“Any living being is originated from clay”, then according to me: god is a potter, we all are clay-mud and this life is a spinning wheel. Until we reach to our adulthood, god tries to give us a shape by creating different situations and jerks and once we wear a shape called maturity, he puts us into the steam chambers of failures, destructions, death, needs, dissatisfactions, loneliness etc. and if we fail to survive, he may throw us back to mud of repentance and frustration but if we survive, he will grant us nothing great but peace which is next to heaven.
Whenever we accidently meet any unaffordable situation, we start losing strength, we start complaining, we start showing our reactions; we start considering god-a culprit, we start adopting that he has done this and he always does this to family and closed ones. A happily living person throws himself in the valley of pain, valley of sympathy, valley of dependencies, valley of negatives, and valley of helplessness. And ultimately, we lose our identity, we lose our strength, we lose our ability and situation handling power, we lose our faith in ourselves, we lose our patience that we gained after a long life-full of struggles. At the end, we start hiding ourselves behind the curtains of frustrations, quietness, depression, complains, poverty of luck etc. madding recklessness.
As I said, everything comes with an expiry and so is the repentance and agony. If we fail to achieve something, we suffer and its normal reaction, but this suffering phase also comes with and expiry but in response to this, what all we need to do is to show and support our patience, our tolerance and our faith in our inner selves. And in addition, we can’t deny a fact that these patience, tolerance and faith also come with their respective expiries. So start living before you leave. Always remember: - Life is very short to be lived and to live it longer, Be-lieve(believe) in yourself before you start believing god, identify your weaknesses before your strengths, learn to digest your failures before you cherish success, learn to live with pain before you start living happily, learn to understand the meaning of isolation before you join chaos, learn to accept responsibilities before you act immature and last but not the least, accept and adopt your death before you start living your life.
Maulik-The One Man Army
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